Here’s to the People who are Afraid to Travel Alone

Traveling solo is scary, most even say it’s lonely. Leaving the comfort of friends and family and all things familiar with no idea of what’s waiting for you when you land in a different city or country is outright daunting.

Asakusa, Tokyo, Japan. October 2018.

Traveling solo is grueling because when something goes wrong, everything is up to you. It will leave you with the only option of keeping away from everything and everyone you know. You have to figure out everything that it will make you think that it might be easier if you had a friend around.

Nami Island, Gapyeong, South Korea. November 2018.

Traveling solo is not all sugar, spice, and everything nice because you will never really know the attitudes of other people. Some are mean and rude. Some will deliberately avoid you. Some might not even talk to you, worse, they won’t even help you when you’re clearly lost and disrupted. Some will take advantage of you, really.

Taipei, Taiwan. August 2017.

It is hard to take your own photo when you travel solo. Some people will look at you with such disdain and if you’re anxious enough, it will be all the more gut-wrenching. It is even hard to eat alone. Some people will take you for granted and make you feel as if you never really existed.

But here’s to the people who are afraid to travel alone: Yes, traveling solo is scary but it is liberating because you have to completely rely on yourself.

You will have to know that when you didn’t need to learn anything more, all you need is to trust yourself and be patient. Traveling solo is not lonely because you will meet people — far too great people— from different races with far different stories.

Hat Yai, Thailand. March 2017.

Traveling solo is grueling, as every other travel (even with your friends and family) usually are but have a brave heart. Travel mishaps are inevitable and you just have to take a deep breath, carefully assess the situation, and try your hardest to know what’s causing your distress. If it comes to worse, talk to other people and ask for their help.

Yes, some people are mean and rude but most of the people you’ll meet are nice, trustworthy, and lovely. However, you must have a good sense of people’s hearts. Be nice so that they will not take advantage of you. Learn to talk to people, better yet, connect with the locals because most often than not, they are extraordinarily helpful and adorable. Most of them will help you solve your problem without expecting anything in return.

It is hard to take your own photos when you’re alone, no questions asked. But most of the people around you will offer to take yours, even if it sometimes –okay always– means you have to take their photos, too. Trust me, you will be more creative. If you are shy to ask other people for that favor, then be brave enough to do the complete opposite: offer to take their photos, and they will take yours. Problem solved.

It is hard to eat alone is a myth. It might be surprisingly stressful to eat alone in a restaurant but you will get used to it. After all, it is sometimes cool not to share your food to anyone else.

And here’s to the people who are afraid to travel alone:
You are more than capable than you give yourself credit for. Convince yourself that it is okay to travel alone and the world is safe. You will have to chart your own course so traveling solo is not for the faint-hearted. Be brave or do not travel alone. Be your best self or do not go solo.

Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. August 2018.

A quick guide:

  1. Have a careful plan in place. Always, I repeat, always do your research for safety purposes.
  2. Write that itinerary online, you can also print it for the contingency plan. Plan out where you want to go and how to get there. All you have to do is to stick to it, or not.
  3. Connect with the locals. Learning the local language is not necessary but knowing some basic phrases is recommended.
  4. Eat the place’s most recommended food and eat with your heart’s content.
  5. Remember that you are safe and you will never be alone.
Kaputian Island. December 2015.

Trust yourself in every decision you make because you know what they say — life has a funny way of taking you to places you never know existed.



I urge you: go find buildings and mountains and oceans to swallow you whole. They will save you, in a way nothing else can.

Christopher Poindexter

My coin banks made me travel to 5 local and 4 int’l destinations in 1 month

“You’re so Ilocana,” says a friend when I showed her the photos of my coin banks. I am not any near of ashamed though, if I may say.

Technically, my coin banks did not cover [for] all my expenses because I booked my flights way beforehand. We can never thank seatsales enough, yes? But my alkansyas sure helped me pushed through with my travels, even that goes without saying.

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When I say travels, I meant going to IloiloAntique-back to my province in Ilocos Norte- South KoreaSingapore – Thailand – Malaysia – Bacolod – Cadiz City (Lakawon Island) – Guimaras in one month. Yes, you read it right!

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Antique (Tibiao and Culasi) | March 6-7

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Iloilo (City and Gigantes) March 8-11

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South Korea – March 16-21

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Two consecutive months in Singapore – February 16-21 & March 21 & 26

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Thailand (Hat Yai and Phuket) March 23-25

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Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia – March 25-26

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Bacolod City – March 26 – March 29

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Lakawon Island, Cadiz City, Negros Occidental – March 27

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Guimaras – March 28

Five coinbanks strategically placed in:
– My tita’s house in Novaliches (two of them) which I started filling in when I was still living with them, and every weekends thereafter.
– Two on my bedside table and on top of my cabinet in the room I am currently renting
– One on my office table

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HOW DID I DO THAT? Well, I:
– Deliberately put 100, 200, and 500 bills in there just to find myself whining and ranting that I don’t have any money left after.
– Put my “extra” money in there, too. When I mean extra, I programmed my Ilocano self that I need to spend just 100 pesos for a day (on work days). Whatever extra money I can spare, I deposit it on my office coinbank.
– Put other extras, too. I am not really that much of a spender (okay, I spend a lot on food..and travels!), so whatever extra coins or bills I have from satisfying my cravings and beach/mountain longings, I put it on my boarding house alkansya.
– Saved the 40% of my monthly salary for personal and school use (which sufficiently covers [my] two weeks). The 10% is for my tithes while the 50% goes to my saving accounts (I have three!) where my insurance policies payment are automatically debited monthly. Whatever money I feel like saving from the 30%, I put it in wherever of the five. It depends on my mood, though. Sometimes I put 500/300/200 bills, but I put my extra 20 and 50 peso bills which, to be honest, is most of the times.

Most importantly, I (somehow) deprived myself of gadgets and unnecessary temporary pleasures (*coughs luxury bags, clothes, and shoes.. coughs*).. or those are just not really my things.

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Because of my coinbanks, I spent too little of my savings. I used my last payment from my previous project/job to add up to my travel expenses. The good thing is, I haven’t even opened two of my coinbanks yet!

What I just want to say here is that save those coins, that extra 20-peso change from whatever you bought, that two hundred bill that you think you will not need for the next days, or even that 500 peso bill you may want to take off from your salary on every payday.

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Buy that cute coinbank in the mall, I bought mine in Papelmerotti with all those inspiring quotes that made me want to save more.

I went to the destinations above with a minimum amount of pocket money. Check my previous and next posts on how much I used in each trip.. just like how an Ilocana should ambitiously spend. *winks*


I have said this earlier but adding my savings from my previous job, I only opened two out of my five coinbanks for all my trips! 🙂 I still have my emergency fund! *exits with flying colors*

Solo Backpacking Panay | Tibiao, Antique

For the longest time, Antique has been associated with the word “Aswang” and I think people there just generally accepted that thinking.

My friends were telling me scary stories before my travel, telling me not to push through. I’m all the more thrilled, though.

I did not stay in Malalison Island as I (mentally) originally planned. That was probably the best decision I made since I became impulsive about life. Of course that is immemorial.

I arrived in Culasi port at around 4:30 in the afternoon with five very bubbly college students, a friendly couple, and of course the boatmen that weren’t really helpful from the island.

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I’ve read many blogs that tell readers that the best way to go to Tibiao is to take a tricycle to the boundary of Culasi and Tibiao, and take another tricycle to  barangay Importante, then finally ride a habal-habal.

Friends, I discovered a better and much cheaper way to go back to Tibiao.

From Culasi port, ride a tricycle to Ceres bus terminal. Fare is Php 9.00, regardless if you’re alone or not. Each person should pay Php 9.00. The drivers there are honest, they will not rip you off.

Wait for the bus bound for Iloilo. Tell the driver to drop you off at barangay Importante. Fare is Php 20.00.

At the drop-off point, there are habal-habal (motorcycle) riders waiting for passengers. Tell the driver in line on where your homestay is. The fare is Php 70.00. The habal-habal can only fit one person, though.

You need to stop at a certain checkpoint to pay for environmental fee of Php 50.00. Don’t lose the receipt. You will have to show the OR number to the barangay officials if you want to hike Bugtong- bato Falls.

I really did not have any homestay reservation but I made a mental note before leaving Manila that I want to stay in La Escapo Lodge. It turns out that the owner of the lodge is the barangay captain of Brgy. Tuno, Tibiao, Antique.

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The barangay captain’s family manages the lodge. They actually built (big) kubos  near the lodges so you don’t have to worry about your safety and security. It is a gated homestay.

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The Kawa bath and the cottage at the back.

It was a Tuesday, I went there without a reservation, and I was thanking the universe for not failing me that time. I had a cottage by myself, near the river, where all you can hear are the crickets and birds chirping, and that calming sound of water flowing from below.

The owners will ask you if you want to avail of their meals. Of course, I did. Also, tell them what time you’d prefer to use one of their Kawas. I chose the next morning.

You need to pay for the cottage and hot bath. For the night, I only paid Php. 450. Php 200 for the cottage and Php 250 for the Kawa bath.

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This is the “veranda” of the cottage. Left side is where the river is, center curtain is the bathroom, right curtain is where the door to the room.

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This was my bed! So cutieee ~

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Okay, never mind me.

Also, the very accommodating family will ask you if you want to hike Bugtong-bato falls. They told me to wake up early the next day (preferably 6:00 AM) so I won’t be bothered by the heat of the sun when hiking.

With all the dread from not sleeping the night before to catching the flight to bearing the 5-hour butt-numbing ride to Antique, no better way to cap the day off with a massage. Php 350 is a good catch, right?

THE NEXT DAY

I woke up early. Thinking that I will be going straight to hike, I went to the waiting area; I was greeted by the genuine smiles of the owners. They told me that it is better to eat first so I’ll have the energy to hike. The breakfast was FREE!

Okay, they even set a cute table presentation for me.

Brekky!

Kuya Jay-ar, one of the sons of the owner, accompanied me to the barangay hall where we walked for 10 minutes. You have to bring the environmental fee receipt!

Just like in Malalison, the guides for Bugtong-bato Falls need to write their names in the register provided by the barangay council. Whoever first in the list will be the guide.

Apparently, it was the first Wednesday of the month and all the guides and barangay officials need to convene for a general cleaning in the barangay. All the guides were not available so the locals in Brgy. Tubo who are not really guides are allowed to guide tourists for the day. The guide fee is Php 150. Please be thoughtful! 

My guide was Jing-jing. She is two years older than me. She graduated with a Bachelor in Education degree but even four years after, she cannot land a job. The competition for teaching positions is tight, she said.

She was very responsive to my questions. She was also very helpful and I have learned a lot from her. Together with Jingjing, I hiked for 30 minutes to these views.

First out of 3 falls.

2nd out of 3.

Me braving to climb the stone(wall) to the 3rd falls.

So I climbed!

The last stop!

The water was freezing cold!

Side story: Through the hike, I met Ma’am Karmila Rose Dimamay, Tibiao’s former tourism officer and town councilor (she’s so pretty and very down to earth). She is an advocate of #OneAntique and is really a wander girl whilst an adventure-seeker, just the same. 

We stayed in the third falls for good 30 minutes, talking about more adventures I can try out in Antique. We walked together back to the lodge. Ma’am Karmi walks fast so Jing-jing and I were left behind.

Reaching the houses halfway through our descent, we saw Ma’am Karmi sweeping dried mango leaves. Then a local offered us coffee.

Local coffee and muscavado.

While sipping a local coffee partnered with Antique’s muscavado given to us by a local for FREE (no better way to take a short break fom hiking), she told me a story that I wouldn’t have known (about the origin of Kawa baths) otherwise.

I’ve heard from childhood of stories about Aswangs and other Enkantos, most of which, they say, live in the mountains of Antique. It is in these Kawas where they cook their victims, I’ve been told.

Years ago, Tibiao’s main crop was sugarcane and townspeople get their income from making muscavados, which are cooked through Kawas.

Realizing that the town is rich in irrigation, they switched to planting rice crops. The locals’ income drastically increased then.

So gradually, Kawas came of no or too little use. But some time in the 90’s (or 80’s?), a foreigner who now owns the Kayak Inn saw an opportunity to make a living out of these useful tubs. It was also because Tibiao used to conduct a yearly Kayak competition. The participants, out from the cold water of the river, were looking for ways to relax, hence the discovery of Kawa Hot Bath.

After the exchange of relevant information, we went back to La Escapo Lodge.

They were preparing my Kawa bath then.

Waiting for my bath, I decided to go down the river to just check it out. Little did I know that the floating cottage was newly-built and because Ma’am Karmi was there, the barangay captain let us ride it, FOR FREE!

The kuya in the back is Jing-jing’s father!

I swam in the river, too!

FINALLY THE KAWA BATH!

I ate lunch at the lodge and went back to Iloilo around 12:00 PM. I “checked-out”, and guys, I only paid Php 530.00 for the massage, dinner, and lunch!

The owners will call a habal-habal driver for you. The fare is the same, Php 75. Wait for Iloilo-bound vans in the arc of Barangay Importante. However if you want to go to Roxas or Aklan (Boracay), go back to the Ceres Bus Terminal in Culasi.

I reached Iloilo at 5:00 PM ~

I went to Gigantes Island the next day! *winks*