Years of being in a relationship don’t necessarily result to ending up together. It is normal to always have that bumps in the road, you two work it out, but then it gets tiring you just let it go.

There, I said it.

Over the years, you two have each other. Telling secrets, hanging out, eating everywhere, until one becomes the world of the other. It is not a fair share. One gives it all while the other one is too lax it becomes a one-sided boat- rowing. You always thought you would spend your life with that special someone that you could do anything with. Have other half on your bed, which is now a bedroom that is mostly empty at night. You take the risk of losing your friends. Taking the risk of everything. But you realized it’s not worth it. It was never worth it.

You say you love him, you don’t get a message back. Now tell me, how difficult it could be?

Woman, you are allowed to be angry.

There are many times when people have bad days. Those times of fighting over senseless things, yelling at each other, no text replies, no calls, cold nights and cold hearts; those times of finding the most harsh words to say because all you want is to put an end to what you have; and you both did. But at the end, you’ll always end up forgiving each other.

Then comes the wrong timing of separation. When you are sad, crying, alone and down, you always go back to the conversations you did not erase from your mobile phone. You open his Facebook account, send him a message of what is going through your life even if it means being pathetic because he won’t have an access to read it, you wait and hope and dream.

The point is, it was pointless.

Because the moment he got his belongings back, it was as if you were not existing. It was the worst feeling.

So would you blame?

People change, they say. But no, people don’t change, their feelings do, even more when they are neglected, taken for granted and worst, rejected.

Women are skeptical. We always play the role of a devil’s advocate. We look at the negative side of something beautiful. We have the sense of feeling something is wrong. We ask questions we already know the answer. And at times, if not most, guys lie.

But men, remember that you are not the only Adam living in this world. What you can’t do, somebody else will. Be careful on who you are dumping, because someone better sees her as a gem.

Because a woman, when she founds someone who calms her spirit and quiets her busy thoughts, ends up looking for another comfort zone. And if she does found that someone who loves her fiercely, it defies even his own logical reasoning, ideals and beliefs that she once lost because of a wrong detour called relationship.

NOTE TO SELF: You just wanted someone you could talk to, and you, for all the reasons in the universe, were longing for that company you haven’t received for a long time. Sorry, but your father said you’re a Princess, not a soldier, so don’t push for something you already long gave up while fighting.

 Now, sleep. Someone better is happy to have you.